Who Is My Life Partner?

Have you ever been wondering when you look at someone; your friend, colleague, relative or even could be a stranger, for a moment you might had this thought where IS HE THE ONE? But, could he be my soulmate or life partner? Another confusion arises here; who is soulmate and who is life partner? Life partner and soulmate can be entirely two different person or both can be the same person. Numerous times I have this question on how to know if that someone is my life partner.

I met this person who told me that when the right time comes, you will meet the one who meant for you. It was true indeed. I used to have misconception where, when you meet your life partner or soul mate, your heart pounds. I remember the quote by Buddha saying :

“ If you meet somebody and your heart pounds, your hand shake, your knees go weak, that’s not the one. When you meet your “soul mate” you’ll feel calm. No anxiety, no agitation.” - Buddha

When I first met him, my heart beat was normal, and I felt extremely calm to be around him. It’s all started when he sent me friend request via facebook. He didn’t approach me in the first place. Instead, he attempted to be my friend and get to know me better; my background; family; likes and dislikes. We started off longer conversation through facebook. Eventually, I gained confident to exchange my contact number with him. The conversation continues via call. Sometimes it lasts for hours until we realized that it’s time for us to put a halt on current conversation and get some good sleep to go through the next day. As getting know him closer, I started developing infatuation towards him. An unknown feeling which couldn’t identify if he is the right one for me. But again, how to identify if he is the one? The battle between heart and mind never stops. When comes about feeling, always put your heart before mind. Your heart will advocate your true feeling towards the person.

We used to work in same company and based in same level. I used to bump into him several times but never once I have greeted him. I left clueless that he had crush on me until he approached me. As the days goes, our friendship moved to the next level. Our first outing turned out to be a disaster, but I took it in a good way. Although he claimed to love me, but I didn’t believe him at that point of time. I asked him “what makes you to fallen in love with me? What was the reason?”. He answered it beautifully “If I have fallen in love with you for a reason, then I would stop loving you when the reason no more exists. I love you and I doesn’t find any reason to love you”. I’m impressed with the way he answered my question in a matured way.

I started committing in relationship with him but the second thought still there. Again, he told me that “If you are not sure, take your time to think and decide. You don’t have to rush to give me an answer”. I accepted his proposal although I didn’t develop any feeling of love for him at initial stage. He was very confident that I’m the one for him, but it took me some time to realize it. He never rushes me when comes about this thing. After a period of time, I realized that it was no more one-sided love and love started blooming between us. I started finding comfort zone to be around him and felt more confident to have face to face conversation. A relationship not always begin with love. We found our strength and weakness throughout the relationship. We tolerated with each other to make the bonding more stronger.

I have came across distinct types of guys at every stage of my life. Just like any other girls out there, I did had crush on someone. It is nothing wrong to admire someone but jumping into conclusion thinking the feeling of crush as love is wrong. We attracted to someone because of their charm and physical appearance. Getting to know the person will help us to identify if he is the right one for you. Understanding is the foundation of any relationship. When you have a stronger foundation of understanding, love will bloom by itself. Getting to know someone for days doesn’t define the relationship as love. It consume time to understand each other better. Sometimes, it could lead to years. You might knew him for years, but it doesn’t mean both of you have good compatibility. Spending some quality time together to get to know each others' likes or dislikes and respect each other makes a perfect couple. Eventually, you will come across a moment where both of you will indulge in a passionate relationship.